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This is the brighter side of an article entitled: “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself” – posted long ago and recently shared with me by my sister, Linda. As soon as I saw the title, I knew I would have to rewrite it from the positive perspective. Knowing what we do today about the subconscious and neuroplasticity, it makes more sense to think about what to do.

So, without further ado, let’s “do-be-do-be-do!” 

  1. Spend time with the right people. You know who brings quality improvement to your life. Go get more of that.
  2. Face your problems.  Plan for the outcome.  Make a list and then list your options.
  3. Be true to yourself. Work on what’s right with you. Flush the rest. Do what you know you should be doing to live a fulfilling life.
  4. Figure out what you need and find a way to get that.
  5. Be who you are, as you work on becoming the “best you” you can be.
  6. Look to the future. The past holds no promise.
  7. Do something without fear of failure.
  8. Forgive your past mistakes and move on. See number 6 – look forward.
  9. Focus on the free stuff that makes you happy. Love, friends, doggies, and the satisfaction that comes from helping others, along with writing and public speaking; all of these create joy in your life.
  10. Decide to be happy. Yes, number 9 says something else. But, you are allowed to be happy by yourself.
  11. Evaluate and take decisive action. Progress involves risk. Steal second base, if you want to score.
  12. Do something before you are ready. He who hesitates is lost. Go, do, observe, and adjust.
  13. Be alone rather than be in bad company.
  14. Take the risk of forging new relationships. Any one of them may bring out the best in you.
  15. Be better for yourself. Compare your results with past results and continue to improve.
  16. Want what you’ve got. You have good stuff. Enjoy it. See number 30.
  17. Find the growth you’ve achieved through past failures. Use that for future success.
  18. Forgive everyone for past transgressions – free yourself of the burden of grudges.
  19. Raise your standards and maintain them at a high level. Let others judge themselves.
  20. Do what you know is right and you’ll never have to explain.
  21. Step back and take a longer view of what you do. Make any changes you see as necessary.
  22. Stop and smell the roses. You know you enjoy the little pleasures in life. So, do more of that.
  23. Accept that it cannot be perfect – you’ll get more done. The right moment you are waiting for may never come, so start without it.
  24. Take on the task that presents resistance. Extraordinary achievements require a bit of effort.
  25. Cry, if you must. Maybe you’ll feel better after that.
  26. Take responsibility for your life. You created it and continue to create it.
  27. Be what you can be, one moment and one day at a time. Give and do what you can and move on.
  28. Plan, instead of worrying.  Write down the steps and adjust as needed.
  29. Focus on what you want to have happen.
  30. Be grateful.